I’ve blogged before about Mother Blessings, so I won’t go into great detail about the workings of them. Instead, I want to gush about how wonderful my friends are to put one on for me and what it meant to me. 🙂
I deeply desired to have one with my first two children, as baby showers just didn’t cut it for me. Yes, I enjoyed the practicality of it, but it felt like something was missing….more meaning and reverence for what was about to take place. Unfortunately, I did not have the circle of friends then that I do now (no offense to my friends back then, we were young!).
When I got pregnant with my last child, one of my first thoughts revolved around finally getting to have that Mother Blessing I’d so wanted! I looked forward to it my entire pregnancy and was delighted that my dear friend, T, put it on for me. When the day came, I desperately needed a little sanctuary from what was then a very stressful time (both my grandmother and my mom fell ill during the end of my pregnancy). That ceremony was wonderful, even though my mom showed up at the last-minute and made a mockery.
This pregnancy, I again looked forward to having this time with my nearest and dearest. What made it doubly special (and somewhat bittersweet) was the knowledge that it would be my last one. Sure, we’ll probably have other forms of blessingways as we go through life, but the chapter concerning pregnancy and birth for me is closing, and that gave this ceremony a whole new perspective. In my previous post, I talked about inviting only certain people, and I followed my own advice this time. I invited only the women in my life I feel closest to, those who affect me on a near daily basis. I am fortunate to have a TON of women in my life that I love, so narrowing down my list proved to be slightly difficult.
I love everything about Mother Blessings; the music, the energy, the pampering, you name it, I LOVE it! One of my favorite parts, though, is the honoring. Yes, I know how egocentric that sounds, but I’m just being honest. In our society today, it’s rare to take the opportunity to tell each other just how amazing we think we are or how much we are loved. Hearing it is always nice, but feeling it is even better. The love that flows during this time from woman to woman is quite powerful and can sustain us through even the most difficult times. Often times, we find out about an endearing quality that we didn’t even know we had. Other times, the qualities we have been striving for are reaffirmed. That’s what I took away from this particular ceremony. What higher compliment can there be?
Feeling the love
Adornment in the form of a henna belly
I can not say enough how important I think Mother Blessings are to the modern woman and how much of an effect they can have on all of us. To feel such love and support, even if only for a few hours, is the true blessing.
Doubly honored to have the two newest members of our women's circle attend, "my" babies from doula clients and friends.