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  I feel very strongly that surrender is an essential component of any good birth.  In order to let baby and body do what needs to be done, we must let go of ourselves and surrender to the ancient wisdom that knows exactly what to do.  It’s also essential in that complete surrender allows us to let go of what we want and be open to what needs to happen.  I know, I know, this is much easier said than done when things aren’t going our way!

  This pregnancy I’ve tried to focus on that surrender, especially since one of the fears that cropped up was having a cesarean.  I am still not quite sure why this fear appeared during my fifth pregnancy.  Three kids later seems like a strange time to decide to fear something that’s never happened to me personally.  What I finally came to was an understanding that while I *can* control what I focus on, how I eat, the type of prenatal care I receive, etc., I can *not* control the experience or the outcome of this birth.  I can make plans and have an idea of how I want things to go, but that doesn’t guarantee me a specific outcome.  What I am guaranteed is the knowledge that I have done what I can and that whatever happens is meant to, whether I understand/approve or not.  

  I believe that each child has a birth right, as in a right to be born in exactly the way he/she needs.  I also believe that I may never know the reason for said way of entering this world.  I can understand how each child’s birth affected me, my thoughts and my body but to understand how and why for the child is up to them, not me.   

  All these things run through my mind as I sit here, awaiting my new little one to be born.  My 9 year old asked me the other day if we knew when the baby would be here.  I said no, the baby decides when to come.  I also think about how upsetting it is to some people, the last little bit of pregnancy when we have very little control.  Personally, I like letting go and allowing myself to surrender.

I am opening up in sweet surrender to the beautiful birth right of this babe

I am opening up in sweet surrender to the beautiful birth right of this babe

I am opening

I am opening

I am opening

I am opening

The above song  is one of my favorites for Mother Blessings and is titled I Am Opening.  A quick google search shows me that there are many versions of this song or chant, but the version I heard as a child was sung by a powerful group of women and has stuck with me for all my births, as well as being a song I have sung to some of my clients.

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